I thought bringing two babies into our lives would be a massive shock to the system and even though we are still getting used to the constant whirlwind that a newborn (or two!) brings it hasn’t been as hard to adjust as I thought. It helps that we have done this all before so even when the crying and sleep deprivation gets tough you know that it does end, there is hope for a full nights sleep somewhere in our future.
The first few days at home were spent in a happy new baby haze, we didn’t do anything or go anywhere just got the spend some time getting used to being a family of five. The twins both lost weight at the first midwife visit so we will be under the midwife until they are back up to birth weight. A didn’t loose quite as much but B was very nearly on the 10% which is when they have cause for concern but since then they have been feeding brilliantly. At the next midwife visit they had both put weight back on but are still a tiny little 5lbs 3oz and 5lbs 5oz. It won’t be long until they are ready to move out of their tiny baby sleepsuits, they are quite long even though they are skinny little things.
The boys have been brilliant and are so good in the day but towards the end of this first week the nights have become more challenging. Usually at least one of them thinks that night is the time to be awake for hours and gets quite upset if we try to turn the light off. I am bottle feeding them so at least my husband can help out at night. As much as I would have loved to breast feed, I didn’t manage it with Lucas and I didn’t this time. I found it a really stressful experience with Lucas so didn’t put any pressure on myself this time; looking after twins and a toddler is enough without making myself feeling guilty about feeding. Hats off to those twin mums that do breastfeed, it is an amazing achievement with two! We feed them both at the same time so that they are in the same routine and we manage a couple of hours sleep between feeds, I’m making the most of it while he is on paternity leave! They share a crib in our room which is supposed to help settle them into the same sleeping patterns and so far they both wake around the same time for feeds. I love seeing them sleeping together, they were put in the same cot in hospital and I like to think they take comfort from having each other close, after all it has been that way for nearly 9 months!
We can just about tell them apart now but we still know who is dressed in a certain colour just in case! They are identical twins which means they will have the same hair colour and eye colour but doesn’t mean they will have exactly the same features. B is the noisier twin and is usually more alert than A too but they both like a good nosy around when they are awake. We love catching them sleeping in the same position and they are really difficult to tell apart then. Even at this age they seem to mirror each others actions; maybe that’s just our imagination but it’s cute all the same. There is an endless fascination with twins that we are just starting to realise for ourselves.