One of the things I love most about having twins is that these two little boys will have a friend for life, there will always be someone there who knows them better than anyone else. That doesn’t mean that they always get on and as they get older I can see more differences in their personalities. They are still quite subtle and I struggle to explain them to anyone else but I can just feel it. They fight like cat and dog, they push each other out the way to get my attention, trying to be the first to get on my knee. They really let me know if they are having a scrap over a toy and many afternoon I try to cook tea with two whinging toddlers clinging onto my legs.
I sometimes wonder how close they are, as they are young they can’t really express that. Then I realise that they are never far from each other, never away from each other; they just expect that the other one will be there, round the corner, in the next highchair, opposite each other in the bath and next to each other when they sleep. Where one goes the other follows and what one does the other does too. Bear woke up last night and when I went in to settle him he pointed at Boo in the cot next to him them curled up as close to him as he could before going back off to sleep. They take comfort from each other in ways they probably take for granted and they challenge each other in ways I’m sure they will appreciate in the future.
When I found out I was having twins I had several days of pure panic, then it changed to excitement. All the things I was excited for are all the things that are truly incredible about having twins. I love that at this age when they look for one another their brother will always be there.
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Oh gosh I love this SO much. The photo is so adorable but the words gave me goosebumps.
April 20, 2015 at 10:08 amMe and my brother never really fought, and have always been quite close and a part of me is convinced that it’s because we are twins and that if one of us was a couple of years older we wouldn’t have the relationship that we do.
It’s lovely reading about the relationship your boys have, I find it fascinating xx
I think is is so lovely that you have that close relationship with your twin brother, I just love watching my boys together and seeing how they interact. Twins are so special! Thank you for your lovely comment xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:26 amLovely post hayley. It must be amazing to watch your boys grow being so close yet so different. Even though I don’t have twins, I feel this with my three, especially the girls. It’s a beautiful thing to watch. And I know the feeling of having them cling off your legs at the “witching hour”. I always imagined what it would be like to have twins, must be fab. Xxx
April 20, 2015 at 10:48 amIt is fantastic to have twins, having any children close in age though is lovely to see. You must see so much interaction with your three! xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:27 amWhoops my link didn’t work x
April 20, 2015 at 10:49 amHaving twins must be incredible, so different and such a gift. It must be wonderful to watch them with each other, that endless bond and their individual growing personalities x
April 20, 2015 at 2:32 pmI love it, it is totally different even to close siblings I think! xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:27 amThis is so lovely. Must be so great to see them growing together and the special bond developing x
April 20, 2015 at 7:34 pmIt is, they constantly fascinate me, especially as they are getting older! xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:28 amThis photo is so cute! Being a twin must be so much fun! x
April 20, 2015 at 7:57 pmI think it must be, would love to know what they’re thinking! xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:30 amHow wonderful, their relationship is going to be so special. It must be such a wonderful feeling to have that bond with someone xx
April 20, 2015 at 8:35 pmI hope that they stay so close as they get older, I just love watching them together xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:31 amAw such a cute picture xx
April 20, 2015 at 9:56 pmThank you! xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:32 amGorgeous photo, and really shows what their relationship can be like.
Apart from the obvious double hard work, and double the cost, I always thought I’d have quite liked to have had twins. We have them in my family but on my dad’s side so was going to be unlikely. I assumed I’d have 2 children rather than only N, so twins would have been handy to have in one go. Plus of course the more positives of a ready relationship and link to someone else.
April 20, 2015 at 9:57 pmI would say all the hard work is worth it, we didn’t expect them but couldn’t imagine not having twins now! It is nice to know that they’ll have someone to go through life with, especially on first day of school etc.
April 23, 2015 at 10:33 amOh what a lovely post Hayley! You always wonder how genuinely close singleton siblings are too but it’s so lovely that you have and answer in your boys, they are a constant in each other’s lives and that’s so special – lucky boys!
April 21, 2015 at 8:00 amVery true, they are lucky to have each other. It’s funny that one of them seems especially close to Lucas, but it’s nice to know that they will always have one another!
April 23, 2015 at 10:34 amSuch a fab photo, Hayley. It’s almost like they’re looking in a mirror. My eldest is obsessed with twins. He’s absolutely fascinated by people that look the same. I’ve suggested that he looks a lot like his little brother and they could pretend to be twins but he wasn’t particularly impressed by the suggestion.
April 21, 2015 at 9:14 pmHaha, I love that! I pretended I had a twin when I was younger so I completely understand his obsession!
April 23, 2015 at 10:35 amHi Hayley! I just came across your little space and saw this image of your boys-love! It took me a moment to figure out, then I read that you had twins-ha! I’m so envious, I always wanted twins, I think they are so special. What a gift! Lovely to come across your blog…Jordan
April 22, 2015 at 10:46 pmThank you Jordan, it really is lovely to have twins! I do feel like they are such a gift, glad you like the photo xx
April 23, 2015 at 10:36 am