Everyone who has ever even thought about having children has always thought about the baby names they would choose. I know me and my husband would discuss our favourite names well before we had decided to try for children. Both times I found out I was pregnant I couldn’t help having a sneaky look though the baby name books and even writing little lists of my favourites. This time the pressure is on, not only do we need two names for our identical twin boys but they need to sound good together. It feels like such a responsibility to get it right! You think about everything; will they like it as a teenager, as an adult? Will they get it shortened to something strange in school? Will the teacher be able to pronounce it on the register? More so now you have to wonder if they will get judged for it at each stage of their life, at job interviews or on application forms?
When I went into have Lucas we had picked out three baby boy names and we hadn’t told them to anyone beforehand. I remember the midwife asking me our names (this was post-epidural when I could talk sense!) and she told us she liked Lucas. When he was born they asked us what we were going to name him, I asked my husband to choose and it has always seemed just perfect for him.
I know everyone has different ways of choosing a name. Some people have them picked out from when they were young and it never changes, some have a family name that has a deep meaning to them, some choose a name because of their heritage and you always hear of people naming their children after cars etc…each to their own! Personally I like names that aren’t too popular but at the same time don’t make people pull a funny face when you say it. I like old fashioned names and I like modern names; some names I absolutely love but they just don’t sound right with our surname. Some of my favourite names get vetoed straight away by my husband; because he is a teacher inevitably some names remind him of certain children, for better or for worse!
This pregnancy I had so many girl names I loved but the boy names were a bit scarce. When we found out it was twins I thought I’d be set…if it was girls! My lists of girls names was out of control; there were so many I loved. Boys names I think I managed about 5 and even then I wasn’t too sure of them. The further through the pregnancy I went the more I thought it was boys and I started to leave my list of little girl names before I became too attached to any! And so, we are blessed with two little boys and choosing their names could not have been harder. We have both wrote our list and compared, but even when we have matching names one of us has dithered about whether we really like it. it has seemed so much more difficult this time, did anyone else find this with their second?
So, after much debate and list making we have managed to agree on a few names; we have two we are pretty certain on and a couple more just in case we change our minds when we see them! Incidentally neither of them are the other names we had picked out for Lucas and to be honest we could even change our minds again!
How did you choose names for your children? Were they names you always wanted, did you let your partner choose or were you swayed by someone else’s opinions?