Every year around this time I write a post about the year ahead; what my hopes are for it and how I feel as I look toward it. I stopped making resolutions several years ago now but I still like to have a plan for the year, more of a mantra I suppose than a plan. Last year I wrote this about making my expectations match our situation so I could enjoy what I actually had rather than worrying about what others had. I felt like it was the beginning of something new for our family and it really was; the year before I had wrote about trying to embrace challenges rather than worrying about what could go wrong. That first year with the twins was tough but we were positive and at the time I think we did ok. It is only now, seeing what we can do as the boys are that bit older, that I can see how limiting it was. There is such a great difference between that first year and this last one, we really were able to get out more, to give the boys a little more freedom and on the brink of this new year I can see even more possibility.
It’s been a good year but I can’t help feeling like I over-complicate things by trying to do it all and not really doing anything as well as I could. For me, 2016 will be about slowing down, taking in more of the little things and appreciating them. I want to enjoy my hobbies and take time for myself. I need to be more organised, that is a must! Most importantly I just want us to spend time together, to say yes and go on an adventure just because.
With that in mind I think of all the things I want to do with the boys. That doesn’t mean making life anymore complicated. If anything I want to make it simple and to focus more on what makes us happy. There are places we go to again and again just because they make us happy, we don’t do that enough. Me and my husband aren’t spontaneous people but we are getting better, it gets easier all the time to just go out and do something. We have our packing down to one little kiddy rucksack and maybe a picnic and that is it, we are out the front door.
My fondest and most clear memories from 2015 are the ones outdoors, when the boys could just run and have fun. Lucas never stops asking to go the the ‘beachside’ so we did just that on the last day of 2015. We drove to one of our favourite spots, Crosby beach. It was absolutely freezing , far colder than we thought so we took a very brief stroll on the sands before retreating to the car to eat our picnic. The boys’ noses turned red and they were fighting against the wind yet they ran and laughed, they were so cold but happily sat in the car and watched the waves come in and cover the iron men. I still forget how much children love the simple things in life – these couple of hours out the house didn’t cost us a penny yet we made memories I’ll never forget. It was far from perfect, it really was too cold to be out for longer than a few minutes and still it made us all happy. Children have an amazing way of cutting through all the rubbish in your head and forcing you to slow down. I am always thankful for my family but never more so at moments like this.
It is something I hope we can do even more of this year, I want us to see new things but I also want us to keep it simple. The photo at the top of this post will help me on my way; my three beautiful boys delight in running on a beach in December, they are my reminder to see the joy in the ordinary.
Happy New Year