It seems so strange to say that the twins are three, this last year has flown and it often feels like I can’t see any big differences between them now and them at two. Of course that isn’t actually the case but the changes are so subtle now and each year there are less big milestones to reach. I’ve read back through my Twins at Two post and I can see that even when it can seem like nothing has changed, so much has.
The biggest thing in the last few months is that their speech exploded, both of them chatter constantly and I hear them talking to each other all day long. Boo started off talking more than Bear but it hasn’t taken long for him to catch up, in fact now I think he says more but Boo is easier to understand. With the chatter of course comes the squabbles and everything that is challenging about baby twins just gets replaced with new things as they get older. Having two irrational three year olds under one roof means some tough days. Luckily they are over with quickly but sometimes it does feel like all they do it bicker with each other. For the most part I try to leave them to it, I can’t be referee with three boys, but I do have to step in when I spot the headlocks!
Their mischief levels have gone through to roof as now they can plot and plan to cause destruction. If they know I’m distracted I can hear them whispering before they take off up the stairs. If I’m on the phone I know full well they’ll have ran off to get into trouble and if I follow them they get all giddy as if it’s all part of the game. I’m constantly torn between telling them off and laughing at them and I’m sure they know it.
They still look completely identical, they’ve kept their gorgeous curls in exactly the same shade, and big brown eyes. They are the same weight and height so there is nothing I can point out to people so they can tell the difference. One night Lucas asked me how I tell them apart and I didn’t have a very satisfactory answer for him, I just know. He settles for asking, ‘which twin are you?’ but I do hope one day he’ll be able to tell the difference.
I still don’t set out to dress them alike however sometimes it is just easier as they will squabble over what the other one is wearing. Boo will deliberately try to wear Bear’s top as he knows it is going to wind him up. In retaliation Bear goes to grab Boo’s shoes which causes a quick scuffle and then Boo tries to get into the ‘wrong’ side of the pushchair. I often wonder what it looked like if someone filmed us trying to get out in the morning…complete chaos I’m sure.
Even with all of that this can be the sweetest age. They are so loving and always look out for the other one. They play so nicely independently and that has been a big turning point for me this year. As they stopped napping around two the days were non stop but now they play so well I do get chance to do my own jobs. I went to a playgroup this morning and I sat for maybe an hour chatting to some friends, having brew and they played quite happily all that time. It’s so easy to take that for granted but when I think back to when they were tiny I never imagined getting to that stage where I could sit back and just watch. I’m not going to lie, it is as blissful as it sounds.
So many people ask me if they get on, if their personalities are alike and for the most part I say yes. They aren’t chalk and cheese like some people describe their twins. I think of them more like two sides of the same coin – they are different in so many little ways and yet it seems to complement the other twin. Boo is the more demanding of our attention and for all he’s quite sure of himself he’ll be the one to seek out Bear when we’re out. Bear will always try to make Boo feel better and yet Boo is the one who always shouts to us if Bear is upset. Bear will try things out and is happy to give it a go on his own where Boo will look to us first to guide him. Neither one of them dominates the other, they take it in turns to boss each other around! They’ll both stand up for themselves when they need to and I’ve seen them stick together if someone turns on them.
For their birthday we took them to the cinema and pizza hut – it was their first cinema trip and despite the fact they stood for most of the film (they won’t sit on the chairs, just like their big brother they hate it when they flip up) it was a success. Having twins, and an older one, means it still feels like such a novelty to me when we go out and do something new. Our catchphrase is always, ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’ and the disastrous days out are getting less and less!
Everything that is special about having twin babies only gets even more incredible as they grow. They are such happy boys and there is nothing better than watching them in fits of laughter together. More often now people say to me how lucky I am when I’m out with them and I can’t help but grin and agree. They can be doing the silliest little thing when it will hit me just how happy I am to be their Mother and how it still feels just as special as when I first held them in my arms. It will never stop feeling like the best thing in the world.